What is the Culprit? Your Personality?

Presumably, we are different from each other in different ways.  Besides different appearances,  people also have different personalities. Some appear to be friendly and talkative; whereas some are shy and clumsy.  Often making such comparison with folks around me, I sometimes wonder why I am what I am.   It's said that we are what we eat.  I mean we have the same kind of food available in the supermarket, yet the proteins getting into our brain function quite differently.  The reason is surely out of the scope of this discussion.  However, my wonder of why I didn't have a personality like Jane, or John, who all have 'better' personalities than mine, lingers in my mind from time to time.

Through the years, I realize that one's personality can affect one's life or career tremendously.  Individuals with "nicer" personality tend to be more successful. Yet others are lusterless even if they are very professional in their fields.  It's true that individuals live in society, and one can't survive alone. Thus, communication between people is essential. There is no doubt that if an individual's personality tends to be communication-friendly, the individual has the first advantage of appealing to others, either in promoting him/herself or letting others to know about him/herself. Unlike machines, we, human beings have feelings and affections toward others.  To establish and maintain the bonding with others, one must talk to each other, work together, etc. If you can build and keep such connection, then you all have pleasant relations with other people. If an individual lacks such trait, the individual won't achieve the individual’s maximum potential despite that he or she is  technically capable.  I have seen well enough examples of that.  I am not surprised to see that someone is always getting her job offer from time to time if she is given a chance to a job interview.  Someone is always doing well in her workplace and loved by her colleagues, friends and family members.  At the same time, it will be uneasy for someone else to do well in job interviews and has to continue to stick to his banal job, without a chance of promotion.  

With all the things being said, the worse thing is that one's personality is born with the person from the beginning. It's irresistible and helpless for those less unfortunate.  But before a future medical miracle helps us to refine our imperfect personality, which I believe will come true in future,  please be considerable and be open-minded to those with flaws in their personalities.